[The preference for discipline and order suggests exposure to disorder and trauma. He has little idea of the scale and refuses to rush to unearth more details, knowing those shall come with time. His main concern is not triggering the temper hidden beneath that frown.]

You prefer to find your family rather than have one foisted upon you.

[It is an observation, not a question. His fingers gently tap the top of his book, before resting upon his lap.]

In any case, it is good you respect the responsibility our hosts feel towards our welfare. I think some people would hardly be so understanding.